As teenagers, we constantly met new people. It seemed as though adult life would bring us even more acquaintances. However, life after college proved it wrong. Making friends as an adult is challenging due to the lack of time and the fact that not everyone is as easy-going as they used to be 10 years ago. Still, there are ways to make friends even as a grown-up.
The key to success is to treat the process of making friends as a pattern and not a one-time thing. You can’t just go out one night and expect to make a certain number of friends. Do it step by step. First of all, find a free hour every week that you’ll dedicate only to socializing. Keep in touch with people you have just started talking with, send a message to an old friend or make plans for the weekend. It won’t take much time, but remember to do it consistently every week.
Texting people every week is just the beginning, you’ll eventually have to leave your house. The best way to meet new people after college is to get involved in a local community. Usually, such communities dedicate time to a good cause, so that is always a plus to your karma. They generally have monthly meetings, so you’ll easily stick to your “out once a month” plan.
Remember that making friends is a pattern? Hence the weekly and monthly plans. The thing is that you have to make a habit out of it: you can’t expect to improve your social life in one go. By following a plan, you won’t spend too much time worrying about socializing, but the results will be obvious.
You might have been a party animal in your early days, but it doesn’t mean that you can still live up to those expectations. Social skills, like any others, get a bit rusty when not practiced regularly. That’s why you have to keep up with the current trends and always get new ideas.
As you can see, making friends doesn’t require that much time. You only have to approach it responsibly and stick to your plan of regular socializing. We are all extremely busy, but it doesn’t mean we can’t find an hour to talk to a new person or dedicate one evening to going out.